Lying is part of our human behavior. This is part of our learning while we are growing up, all the adults are teaching us when to lie, whom to lie and how to lie, intentionally or unintentionally. There are forgivable lies and unforgivable lies. Forgivable lies are those lying with good intention, trying to protect your love one from hurting for finding out the truth, like telling a dying patient he will get well soon. Unforgivable lies are those lying with bad intention, trying to cover their mistakes to protect themselves, or to run away from responsibilities, like a murderer telling everybody he hasn't killed anyone.
Lying is actually part of our life, something we have to face or hear everyday. We all know from our childhood that lying is wrong, but will learn the importance, necessity, and technique of lying gradually while we are growing up. Especially when we are entering this crucial world, facing so many traps and deceit, we will learn to use lying to protect ourselves from getting hurt or into trouble and keep some secrets for our own interests.
Actually, modesty and overstatement are also lies. But nobody will be blamed for modesty, because we feel comfortable and acceptable for those kind of lies, it becomes a showing of manner and self-cultivation.
When we are facing a crucial situation, when everything is hanging by a hair, and we are not fast enough to think of a smart answer, our basic instinct will automatically pump up a stupid excuse or lie to help us out of the woods.
We always hate people lying to us, but we always give ourselves excuses for lying to the others. If we don't like people lying, we should also control ourselves from lying. If we accept ourselves to lie, then we should also accept other people to lie.
A lot of couples are taking lying very seriously. They are expecting their love one to be 100% honest and loyal for the rest of their life, and not allowing one single bit of dishonesty in front or behind them. They are asking for the moon, they are asking something out of human nature, something everyone will promise but hard for even them to fulfil. They are making their life full of lies and dishonesty, having their love one always in custody, and keeping their relationships very tense.
A touchy and jealous person should never expect other people to tell them the truth, because they will get mad at anything they don't like to see or hear. If your husband tells you he was just promoted from assistant manager to manager, and you are telling him this is no big deal, and wondering if he can handle the job, do you think he will tell you anything else anymore? Would you like him to say something similar in retaliation, next time you get promoted or rewarded? If your wife tells you she just talked to her former boyfriend, and provokes you right away, do you think she will tell you the truth anymore? Then your jealousy and anger will be their reasons for lying. The stronger your jealousy, the more you will meet hypocrites, the stronger your anger, the less you will find out the truth.