In an opened styled western country, having multi-sex partners is very common among single or married individuals. How come some people have better loyalty and control than others do? This is because we all have different standards and personality to affect our judgement and decisions. People who have strong religious belief or morals will have higher standards and more control toward sex, desire and seduction. Their strong belief keeps telling them not to cross the barrier during the crucial moment of sexual seduction. This strong belief can help us overcome the negative or evil thinking inside our mind, and stop us from making mistakes.
A lot of people should have experience in hearing two separate voices inside our mind with opposite opinions, pulling us from both sides between good and bad, heaven and hell. We usually call the good side an angel, and the bad side devil. If we have experienced or received a lot of affection, help and support, we will most likely lean on to the angel side. If we have a lot of hate, anger, jealousy with little or no responsibility, we will most likely lean on to the devil side. The way we get alone together, the amount of happiness and mutual adore, the times of our argument and fight, will all determine the future of our marriage and relationship. What we are doing today will determine our future destiny. You may not be able to control a car accident, an earthquake or a tornado, but we can control the emotion of the people around us, to brighten our future, to make everything successful or under control, or blacken your future, to make everything fail or lose control.
If you have the happiest family in the world, you don't want to do something to hurt your most beloved wife, to jeopardize your happy marriage. You love your wife so much; you want to go home to see her right after work, rather than wasting time on the street, searching for hookers or free sex. Only the strongest love in the world can make men or women remain together.
A lot of people may have good self-control at work, in drugs or alcohol, but can not resist sexual seduction. We Chinese have an ancient idiom; "Sex is the root of all evil". This is 100% true among different nations and societies, which make prostitution one of the most ancient, unbounded and irremovable occupations in the world.
The conservative thinking of male domination is still influencing the decision and attitude of some men toward women. We can still hear in some countries, men are allowed to have multiple wives, families or girl friends. We can occasionally see on TV or newspapers about the celebrities or playboys going to parties with numerous girl friends or wives, and a lot of male still think it is all right to fool around and have sex with other women. With the rising of the feminism and the equality between the sexes, these will only cause women to do something similar to revenge, causing more and more broken marriage and relationships.
The reason why the number of divorces is rising every year to a shocking level, is because we are setting too many strict rules between our relationship, and we are setting our standard and baseline too high. A lot of people do not know the correct communication skill; they are crossing the bridge before one comes to it. But when the affair really happen, they will burn them at the stake and chop off the relationship right away, and wouldn't consume any time to find out the real causes and try to fix the problems. Also, we are lacking of common rules and methods to follow and guide us through the down side of our marriage.
Marriages in the ancient time were more lasting and sustaining. The religions, feudalism and conservative societies applied a lot of rules and severe punishment to limit women in affairs or prostitution. And the domination of the male, and the bondage and slavery of the female were making this whole uneven situation and their marriage sustaining.
Because of the decline of male and religious domination, and the rise of feminism, rules guiding our marriages have become obscure and ambiguous. Everyone has different standards, point of views and baseline for running their relationships; a lot of couples can not find co-ordination among their needs and life-styles. With friends, parents and relatives suggesting to us with so many different ways to handle our relationships, how can we find the right methods for the right couples and personalities? How can we do everything correctly to avoid all the differences, arguments and conflicts, to live in peace and harmony?
Everyone has his own merits and demerits; most people marry someone for their merits and divorce for their demerits. And the weighting between merits and demerits will determine our happiness and sadness, our co-ordination and disorder of our relationships. How much both of you have learned and rectified from this homepage will determine finding the right balance and co-ordination. If you can turn yourself from a selfish and revengeful devil to a loving and forgiving angel, then you can really help others who has witness your changes, to follow your path, to correct each other, and search for the true world of ecstasy.
There is only one thing I can not do to help, relationship between strong sexual desire and weak sexual desire, impotence of a male, or sexless of a female. Unless both of you are alike, otherwise you can not stop the other half to look for hookers, free sex or replacement. Unless you can find some other sexual games or tools to fulfil his or her sexual need, or you have extremely strong love to sustain your love and relationship.